TROUBLED CHILD NEEDS YOUR HELP

I clocked 14 years as a boy three days ago. My Mom has insisted on birthing me.

Last night I told her I don't want her to continue bathing me but she insisted, maintaining that what she is doing is the best for me . This morning she called and I was very reluctant to appear or surface for her to birth me.

THE TIME AND SEASON WE ARE IN: NEED FOR COLLABORATIONS AT COMMUNITY LEVELS TO SETUP MONITORING FRAMEWORKS

By Nnabugwu Chizoba,

As economic stagnation, escalating prices of goods and services and consistent increase in criminal activities stare Nigerians in the face; and as the well-meaning citizens bear witness to the seeming inability of the foremost, respected and front-line institutions and structures created in the country to provide the right organizational interventions: manpower, skills and direction display lack of capacity to effectively stem the drift, the easily, noticeable ugly trends in the county, the voice of citizens that are desirous of finding workable approaches to changing the narratives will not seize.

THE UNDERSTANDING THAT WILL HELP YOU TO PROTECT CHILDREN FROM SEXUAL ABUSE

By Nnabugwu Chizoba (Charismativ Chizy)

“To protect Children and Adolescents, from Sexual Abuse, it is important for Parents and Caregivers to understand why people sexually abuse Children and Adolescents and the situation which the abuse is most likely to occur. Very often, parents of a Child or Adolescent who has  been sexually abused say they found the Abuser’s interest in their child a bit strange, but found it hard  to believe  that this was the ‘kind of person’ who would do such a thing”.…Nnabugwu Chizoba.

SEXUAL ABUSE OF CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS: WORKING WITH A GOOD ADVICE ENHANCES THE ABILITY TO PROTECT THE VULNERABLE.

By Nnabugwu Chizoba and Osim Jones Usim

If you have been following us on this platform, it is likely that you are a bit familiar with the issues we have discussed in the past. They are principally centered on protecting the Child from sexual molestation and abuse. For those who have not been following us, we urge you to access the previous publications and update your knowledge. Our discussions are issue oriented, educative, informative, solution driven and impactful. Welcome on board of today’s tour! 

Before anything else is said on this topic, we wish to propose that: People who are easily aroused by physical contact with another person, especially, the opposite sex, should be very careful about having physical/body contact with a child or adolescent, of the opposite sex, mainly. They should be careful to avoid any accidental contact with the girl child’s or adolescent’s genitals.

SIGNS PEDOPHILES AND HEBEPHILES ARE WITH YOU OR CLOSE IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD.

By Nnabugwu Chizoba and Osim Jones Usim

NOTE: In case you do not know how to approach Pedophiles and Hebephiles, or in the event that you are one and understand that you need help, which no doubt you need, please contact this platform. We have contact with persons trained to help people with deviant sexual behavior problems and their families. People who sexually molest children need help and can be helped. From our finding most of them want to change, but require specialized help and treatment. Condemning them and doing nothing to free them will do no good to them and the society.

Done with the above, we wish to invite you to travel with us on the journey of the present. Please join us as we take you through the topic of today, which incidentally is centered more on simple indicators that suggest Pedophiles and Hebephiles, are with you or around your neighborhood.

Please reflect on the questions below:

TRAGIC REALITY OF WHY AND HOW PEOPLE SEXUALLY ABUSE CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS. MAY BE YOU HAVE AIDED IT IGNORANTLY

By Nnabugwu Chizoba and Osim Jones Usim.

The rising cases of sexual Abuse of children and adolescents, demand urgent steps by parents, guardians, schools, teachers, churches, mosques, school administrators, individuals and groups to stem the scourge. The rate at which the pursuit of economic activities is diverting the attention of the society from the child and adolescents of today, is not only worrisome but also injurious.

38 year old nursing mother, Madam Cecilia lives in Jos, the Plateau state capital with her family. 3 days ago, she was discussing with her neighbor on the rising cases of child abuse. From her words, the look in her face and body language you can see the pains she felt about the situation. On a very close interaction with her it was quite glaring how innocently unaware she was, about how children and adolescents can be sexually abused, and how some actions or in-actions of hers, though ignorantly may have been aiding the occurrence of the same act that she vehemently condemns. 

CONFRONTING THE CHALLENGES THEY FACE: THE HOUSEMAIDS/BOYS

By Nnabugwu Chizoba

One nagging issue, that confronts Housemaids/boys in the society, is FALSE ACCUSATION.

While reflecting on it this morning, something that came to my mind is to throw this issue open, and invite comments from the public. It is on the basis of this that I now invite you my esteemed follower and reader, proven and tested defender of rights, hope of the oppressed, and the shining light for a better tomorrow; to share your views. The more we do this, the more enlightened the society is and the better we all become. Welcome on board! Please share you thought.

VIOLENCE AGAINST HOUSE-HELPS: TIME FOR ACTION IS NOW!

Are you concerned? Please do something to PROTECT HOUSEGIRLS/BOYS against INHUMAN treatment. It is their RIGHT.

JOIN

PROTECTING CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS FROM SEXUAL ABUSE

By Osim Jones Usim, ESQ, MCRP, LLM, BL, L.L.B, Executive Director Advocates Centre for Children and Youth Welfare.


There is a consistent growth in reported incidences of sexual abuse of children and adolescents in the society today than ever before. Some segment of the society have attributed this ugly development to the existence of hardcore pictures and pornographic materials which depict children as porn actors too.

The above obviously disturbing development has made it a duty for parents and adults to rise up and do all they could to protect the children from sexual abuse. In doing so the society must clearly differentiate between sexual abuse of children and Rape because of its interchangeable usage.

TOWARDS UNDERSTANDING CHILD PROTECTION NEEDS - Part Two

By Osim Jones Usim, ESQ, MCRP, LLM, BL, L.L.B, Executive Director Advocates Centre for Children and Youth Welfare.

APPROACH TO CHILD PROTECTION:

By approach to Child Protection, what is meant is the ability to understand the protection needs of the Child and the steps to take that will guide anyone who wants to prevent abuse of Children.

In 2003 the Child Rights Act, became a law specifically enacted for protecting the rights of Children in Nigeria. The Child Rights Act, can be described as Nigerian version of the United Nation Convention on the Rights of the Child. However, the Child Rights Act took into consideration the specific needs of the child in his/her local settings, because of difference in culture and social orientation.

TOWARDS UNDERSTANDING CHILD PROTECTION NEEDS AND THE APPROACHES THAT CAN BE ADOPTED IN PROTECTING THE CHILD, IN NIGERIA.

By Osim Jones Usim, ESQ, MCRP, LLM, BL, L.L.B, Executive Director Advocates Centre for Children and Youth Welfare.

Child protection is a practical activity which must be learned. The first practical approach to child protection is to know who a child is. It is a settled position of all legislation, and the Child Rights Act that any person under 18 years is a child and they are still evolving. That is why when you want to obtain certain information concerning the child’s situation you must relate with children taking into consideration their vulnerability.

In the course of our field works, the below listed were noted to be major protection concerns of children.

FORBIDDEN FRUITS TASTE SWEETER (Concluding Part)

By Nnabugwu Chizoba

I deem it necessary to continue my writing on this topic with a story, I once read, but that appeals to me so much. I guess because of what I considers the impact it carries.

The story is about the trial of a man charged with biting off another Man’s finger in a fight. In the trial that ensued from the fight, an eye witness to the fight was invited to the court, as a witness. The event below was the outcome of the interrogation:

Defense Attorney: Did you actually see my client bite off the finger?

Eyewitness: Well, no, I didn’t.

Defense attorney: “Aha!” with a smug smile. “How then can you claim he bit off the man’s finger?

Eyewitness: “Well”, “I saw him spit it out.”

When I read the story, my impression was “painful truths that must not be said”.

Collective indulgence; unconsciously, by the society to institutionalize, encourage and promote amorous behaviours; using the School system as the laboratory and the young African maidens and boys, as the genuine pigs, carries along with it a moral burden. We shall leave discussion of moral burden for another day.

If you are still wondering why in the present day, there is conscious showcasing, advertising, and exhibition in an unguided and provocative manner, the naturally endowed wealth of the maidens, you need to think twice. Like the story,  the society can claim of not seeing the biting off of the finger, is it also possible for the same society to claim of not seeing the spitting out of the finger. There is no denying the fact, that the African society played very active role, in ensuring that nudity and the like are celebrated part of the African society today. You can play, the saint among the devils that is entirely up to you. But I must remind you that it is absolutely very difficult to be more catholic than the Pope.

FORBIDDEN FRUITS TASTE SWEETER (Part one)

By Nnabugwu Chizoba

As the challenges of early exposure of the African child to sex and sexuality, in the name of sex education unfolds; acts of indecent dressing, indecent exposure, nudity and other shameful acts, steer the society in the face. The adored African lady, noted for her consciousness and consistent efforts, to cover her body always, has suddenly, but gradually degenerated into a mere object of entertainment, sex exhibition, and advertisement of nudity and immorality, appearing perennially and insatiably like one seeking for the opportunity to offer sexual pleasure to anybody that comes across her. Her dressing speaks of nothing but deliberate effort to arouse erotic interest, in a manner that shocks and offends the culture, tradition and values of Africa and her people.

Issues raised in this discourse are not intended to dispute that the patterns as expressed do not play out in many parts of the modern world. My argument is that they are not what anybody will convince me are the elements of human nature. The behaviours as identified are not biologically programmed traits of the African specie of Women. They are the evidence of the African educationists to embrace whatever the western world has embraced. The preference for the African Women and Ladies to appear nude in public is not a result of innate nature of the Africans, but an evolutionary programming, created, adapted and achieved through sexual orientation referred to as “Sex education”.

Before I go further in this discussion, I wish to recognize that Africa, like other territories of the world has at one time or the order witnessed her own share of women who barter their reproductive organs as means of living and access to the resources that life can afford. But as anybody would agree this is not the focus of this discourse.

THE NIGHT BEFORE... wondering who holds the power to break the strength and effect of a secret?

By Nnabugwu Chizoba

Sandra was a young, beautiful and charming girl. The type many would refer to as the cynosure of all eyes. As it is usual for girls of her age and beauty, many prying masculine eyes followed her about.

Just as each day comes with its own pressure, each male applicant that confronts her has his own unique approach and style. Every of the passes, and entreaties, made by the aspirants were defeated, due to a very stiff and formidable opposition arising from the unyielding and uncompromising stand of the young maiden, Sandra.  

While no one in his or her right senses, doubted or disputed Sandra’s respectful and obedient disposition, the same was not said about her dress sense and appearance; which many described as always provocative, amorous and very despicable. When it was not the revealing type, such that people in certain quarters describe as see-through, it was the very short ones, that hardly cover the vital areas: Upper Volta and Lower Niger regions of the human frame. 

A day came, the unfortunate and unexpected, happened, Sandra was raped. This inglorious and condemnable act of inhumanity was perpetrated by somebody she never knew; and never had the opportunity to meet again, after the incident.